My name is Alex Marques, and I am a Mira Lagos resident. I am a Head of Program Management and also a Certified Death Doula working with marquesmind.
In a world that often shies away from conversations about mortality, I found myself drawn to a path that celebrates the beauty of life's end as much as it honors its beginning. Becoming a death doula was not a decision I took lightly; it was born out of a profound desire to provide comfort, support, and guidance to individuals and families during one of the most delicate and transformative moments of their lives. In this essay, I will share the reasons behind my choice to become a death doula and how this calling has enriched both my life and the lives of those I have had the privilege to serve.
My journey into the world of end-of-life care began with a deeply personal experience of loss. I had the privilege of being with a loved one during their final days, witnessing the profound emotions, uncertainties, and moments of spiritual significance that occurred. This experience allowed me to embrace death as an integral part of the human experience, rather than something to be feared or avoided. It ignited a spark within me to explore the dimensions of mortality and end-of-life care further.
In a society that often emphasizes youth and vitality, discussions about death can be uncomfortable and sidelined. I realized that by becoming a death doula, I could play a pivotal role in reshaping the narrative on death and dying. As a death doula, I aim to facilitate open conversations about mortality, encouraging individuals to approach their final chapter with acceptance and dignity. By normalizing the discourse around death, I hope to alleviate fear and foster a more compassionate approach to end-of-life care.
The decision to become a death doula was deeply rooted in my desire to offer holistic support to individuals facing life's end. Just as birth doulas guide and empower expectant parents, death doulas provide physical, emotional, and spiritual support to individuals approaching death. I was drawn to this role as it enables me to create a safe and nurturing space where individuals can explore their fears, regrets, and hopes, and find solace and peace in the face of uncertainty.
In a world often dominated by medical interventions, I believe in advocating for dignified end-of-life care that respects the individual's wishes and preferences. As a death doula, I can help individuals articulate their end-of-life choices, ensuring that their autonomy is honored and upheld. By supporting conversations around advance care planning and living wills, I empower individuals to take control of their final journey, bringing a sense of empowerment and comfort during challenging times.
Becoming a death doula has provided me with a profound sense of purpose and fulfillment. Being able to accompany someone on their journey towards the end of life is a privilege that has transformed my perspective on the value of every moment we have. The ability to bring comfort, understanding, and compassion to those in need has enriched my life in ways I could never have imagined.
Choosing to become a death doula was a decision grounded in empathy, compassion, and a deep desire to make a meaningful impact on the lives of others. This calling has allowed me to embrace the natural cycle of life and death and to view the end-of-life process as an opportunity for growth, connection, and acceptance. As a death doula, I am committed to supporting individuals and families during their most vulnerable moments, providing them with the care and compassion they deserve as they navigate the final chapters of their journey on this earth.
If you have any questions about what a death doula can do for you and your family, please feel free to contact me.
Alex Marques
Certified Death Doula – marquesmind
Website: https://www.marquesmind.com
email: sunset@marquesmind.com
phone: (945) 542-1142
