Episode 5 - marquesmind Book Discussion: Atomic Habits

James Clear’s Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones is a transformative guide to mastering the small, consistent changes that lead to remarkable results. Packed with actionable insights and grounded in psychology, neuroscience, and real-world examples, this book is a must-read for anyone looking to improve their habits and, ultimately, their life.

Clear’s central thesis is simple yet profound: habits are the compound interest of self-improvement. Small, incremental changes—what he calls “atomic habits”—may seem insignificant at first but compound over time to produce extraordinary outcomes. Using his Four Laws of Behavior Change (make it obvious, make it attractive, make it easy, and make it satisfying), Clear provides a practical framework for creating good habits and eliminating bad ones.

What sets this book apart is its accessibility and universality. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, student, athlete, or simply someone looking to make positive changes, the strategies in Atomic Habits are adaptable to any goal or lifestyle. Clear emphasizes systems over goals, urging readers to focus on the processes that lead to success rather than the outcomes themselves. His concept of identity-based habits—where each action becomes a “vote” for the person you want to become—resonated deeply with me.

As someone who has struggled with consistency in building habits, I found Clear’s advice both practical and empowering. His emphasis on starting small and focusing on progress rather than perfection helped me reframe my approach to personal growth.

Atomic Habits is more than a book; it’s a toolkit for transformation. It’s perfect for anyone ready to take control of their habits and unlock their potential.

Questions to ponder:

1. How can applying the Four Laws of Behavior Change improve one habit you’ve struggled with?

2. What small habit could you start today that aligns with the person you want to become?

3. How might shifting your focus from goals to systems change your approach to success?

Like the book? 

Enjoy to share ideas about new books contact me at bookdiscussion@marquesmind.com.

You can purchase the book on the following website: https://amzn.to/3FkK0pF (Amazon)

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Episode 4 - marquesmind Book Discussion: Can't Hurt Me

David Goggins’ “Can’t Hurt Me” is a raw and powerful memoir that challenges readers to push beyond their perceived limits. This brutally honest account of Goggins’ journey from an abused child to a decorated Navy SEAL and ultra-endurance athlete is both harrowing and deeply inspiring.

Goggins doesn’t sugarcoat his past or his methods. He recounts his struggles with poverty, racism, and obesity, detailing how he transformed himself through sheer force of will. His “40% Rule” - the idea that we typically only tap into 40% of our capabilities - serves as a cornerstone of his philosophy, urging readers to dig deeper and find their true potential.

What sets this book apart is Goggins’ unflinching examination of pain and discomfort as tools for growth. He argues that by deliberately seeking out challenges and embracing suffering, we can callous our minds and achieve the seemingly impossible. His own life serves as a testament to this approach, from his grueling military training to his record-breaking athletic feats.

As someone who often grapples with self-doubt, I found Goggins’ message both challenging and empowering. His emphasis on accountability and mental toughness provides a framework for personal growth that extends far beyond physical achievements.

“Can’t Hurt Me” is essential reading for anyone seeking to break free from self-imposed limitations. Goggins’ story serves as a powerful reminder that with the right mindset, we are capable of far more than we imagine. While his methods may seem extreme, the underlying principles of self-discipline, perseverance, and mental resilience are universally applicable.

Questions to ponder:

1. How might applying Goggins’ “40% Rule” change your approach to personal challenges?

2. In what ways can embracing discomfort lead to growth in your own life?

3. How does Goggins’ emphasis on self-accountability challenge your current mindset?

Like the book? 

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You can purchase the book on the following website: https://amzn.to/41WH23m (Amazon)

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Episode 3 - marquesmind Book Discussion: Think and Grow Rich

 

Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” is a timeless classic that has inspired millions to achieve success and wealth. Published in 1937, this groundbreaking work distills the secrets of success from Hill’s extensive study of over 500 self-made millionaires.

Hill’s journey began with an interview with steel magnate Andrew Carnegie, who challenged him to explore the principles of achievement. The result is a philosophy centered on the power of thought and desire in shaping one’s destiny. Hill argues that success starts with a burning desire, coupled with faith, specialized knowledge, and persistent action.

What sets this book apart is its practical approach. Hill outlines 13 principles for success, including the power of the mastermind, the sixth sense, and the mystery of sex transmutation. His insights on autosuggestion and the subconscious mind were revolutionary for their time and remain relevant today.

As a reader, I found Hill’s emphasis on mindset transformation particularly compelling. His assertion that “whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve” serves as a powerful motivator for personal growth.

“Think and Grow Rich” is essential reading for anyone seeking to unlock their potential. It’s not just about financial success; it’s a blueprint for achieving any goal through the power of focused thought and action. Hill’s work has stood the test of time, inspiring generations of entrepreneurs, leaders, and innovators.

Questions to ponder:

1. How might applying Hill’s principle of “desire backed by faith” change your approach to personal or professional goals?

2. In what ways can you harness the power of the “mastermind” principle in your own life or career?

3. How does Hill’s concept of “organized planning” relate to modern strategies for success?

Like the book? 

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You can purchase the book on the following website: https://amzn.to/438meXU  (Amazon)

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Embracing Life and Death: My Journey to Becoming a Death Doula

 My name is Alex Marques, and I am a Mira Lagos resident. I am a Head of Program Management and also a Certified Death Doula working with marquesmind. 

In a world that often shies away from conversations about mortality, I found myself drawn to a path that celebrates the beauty of life's end as much as it honors its beginning. Becoming a death doula was not a decision I took lightly; it was born out of a profound desire to provide comfort, support, and guidance to individuals and families during one of the most delicate and transformative moments of their lives. In this essay, I will share the reasons behind my choice to become a death doula and how this calling has enriched both my life and the lives of those I have had the privilege to serve.

 

My journey into the world of end-of-life care began with a deeply personal experience of loss. I had the privilege of being with a loved one during their final days, witnessing the profound emotions, uncertainties, and moments of spiritual significance that occurred. This experience allowed me to embrace death as an integral part of the human experience, rather than something to be feared or avoided. It ignited a spark within me to explore the dimensions of mortality and end-of-life care further.

 

In a society that often emphasizes youth and vitality, discussions about death can be uncomfortable and sidelined. I realized that by becoming a death doula, I could play a pivotal role in reshaping the narrative on death and dying. As a death doula, I aim to facilitate open conversations about mortality, encouraging individuals to approach their final chapter with acceptance and dignity. By normalizing the discourse around death, I hope to alleviate fear and foster a more compassionate approach to end-of-life care.

 

The decision to become a death doula was deeply rooted in my desire to offer holistic support to individuals facing life's end. Just as birth doulas guide and empower expectant parents, death doulas provide physical, emotional, and spiritual support to individuals approaching death. I was drawn to this role as it enables me to create a safe and nurturing space where individuals can explore their fears, regrets, and hopes, and find solace and peace in the face of uncertainty.

 

In a world often dominated by medical interventions, I believe in advocating for dignified end-of-life care that respects the individual's wishes and preferences. As a death doula, I can help individuals articulate their end-of-life choices, ensuring that their autonomy is honored and upheld. By supporting conversations around advance care planning and living wills, I empower individuals to take control of their final journey, bringing a sense of empowerment and comfort during challenging times.

 

Becoming a death doula has provided me with a profound sense of purpose and fulfillment. Being able to accompany someone on their journey towards the end of life is a privilege that has transformed my perspective on the value of every moment we have. The ability to bring comfort, understanding, and compassion to those in need has enriched my life in ways I could never have imagined.

 

Choosing to become a death doula was a decision grounded in empathy, compassion, and a deep desire to make a meaningful impact on the lives of others. This calling has allowed me to embrace the natural cycle of life and death and to view the end-of-life process as an opportunity for growth, connection, and acceptance. As a death doula, I am committed to supporting individuals and families during their most vulnerable moments, providing them with the care and compassion they deserve as they navigate the final chapters of their journey on this earth.

 

If you have any questions about what a death doula can do for you and your family, please feel free to contact me.

 

Alex Marques

Certified Death Doula – marquesmind

Website: https://www.marquesmind.com

email: sunset@marquesmind.com

phone: (945) 542-1142  

Episode 2 - marquesmind Book Discussion: Simply Put: Why Clear Messages Win and How to Design Them

 

Cut Through the Noise: Why Simply Put Should Be Your Next Read

Ben Guttmann’s Simply Put: Why Clear Messages Win and How to Design Them is a masterclass in cutting through today’s information overload. Drawing from his decade-long experience running a marketing agency and teaching at Baruch College, Guttmann argues that simplicity isn’t just a buzzword—it’s the only way to make your message stick. The book blends science, storytelling, and actionable strategies to show why cluttered ideas fail and how to craft messages that resonate.

Who Is Ben Guttmann?

A marketing entrepreneur turned educator, Guttmann built an award-winning agency working with giants like the NFL and Comcast before pivoting to teaching and writing. His TEDx talk on simplicity has amassed millions of views, and his no-nonsense approach—honed through real-world campaigns like NYC’s “Making New York Happen”—makes him a trusted voice in communication.

Why This Book Matters

In a world drowning in jargon and complexity, Simply Put offers a lifeline. Guttmann’s five design principles—beneficial, focused, salient, empathetic, minimal—are tools, not theories. For example, he dissects why slogans like “Just Do It” work (they’re focused and salient) and how overloading messages with “and” weakens impact. The book isn’t just for marketers; it’s for anyone who needs to persuade, whether you’re pitching a project, writing an email, or leading a team.

Personal take? After reading this, I caught myself editing rambling paragraphs into punchy sentences—proof that Guttmann’s advice sticks. His mix of humor (see: chapter titles like “Our Stupid Brains in a Busy World”) and hard data makes complex concepts digestible.

Questions to Spark Conversation:

1. Which of the five principles do you struggle with most—and what’s one step to improve?

2. Can AI tools like ChatGPT truly simplify messages, or do they risk homogenizing creativity?

3. How might Guttmann’s “interrogate your and” rule reshape your next presentation?

Like the book? 

Enjoy to share ideas about new books contact me at bookdiscussion@marquesmind.com.

You can purchase the book on the following website: https://amzn.to/3EisOAF (Amazon)

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Jump your internal waves: The establishment of a new vision and new life

As part of the journey, I mentioned that any person must have the desire for something different in their life.

 

This desire comes from the realization that a specific situation needs to be improved or even an established goal was accomplished successfully, and the journey for improvement needs to restart.

 

I am the first to recognize that this process is not easy; however, people are reaching these conclusions every day.

 

Spending 26 years of my life in Sao Vicente, Brazil, before moving to the United States to work and build marquesmind, I enjoyed the excitement of the New Year's Eve celebrations on the beach. 

 

Thousands of people giving their last goodbyes for a year that is going away and with so much joy and excitement waiting for what the new year will bring.

 

As a country with so many traditions and superstitions, people choose specific colors for their outfits to represent what they want for their new year, like red for love, white for peace, green for money, etc. (you can find more information on this link)

 

Nevertheless, the one tradition that I enjoyed the most was to jump 7 waves in the ocean and wish 7 dreams or resolutions for each wave jumped. 

 

The feeling to want something new for our lives to start the new year was really fulfilling and gave the roadmap for what the things are that I will fight for, be interested in, and, most importantly, I will put my heart out in.

 

However, in a deeper reflection, I am thinking here is why we need to wait only this day to work on a new resolution: why can't we make every day a New Year's Eve? Every day we have a chance to ask for new things, have new dreams, and have them accomplished.

 

As an exercise, get a piece of paper and jump your personal internal waves writing seven dreams or resolutions of things that you wish for. In the process, don't censor yourself! Everything is possible at this time. 

 

This process is really important because it's the only moment that you can shape exactly your destiny. 

 

I understand that this can be challenging, but I can guarantee that this is the beginning of something bigger. 

 

To your success!

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Episode 1 - marquesmind Book Discussion: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

 

Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do: A Blueprint for Resilience

Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do isn’t just a self-help book—it’s a wake-up call to rewrite unhealthy mental habits. Drawing from her experience as a psychotherapist and her own journey through grief (losing her husband at 26), Morin identifies 13 toxic behaviors that sabotage resilience, offering actionable strategies to replace them with strength. The book’s premise is simple yet profound: mental strength isn’t about what you do but what you stop doing.

Why Amy Morin’s Voice Resonates

Morin is no armchair theorist. A licensed clinical social worker and TEDx speaker with over 22 million views, she blends clinical expertise with raw honesty. Her viral 2013 article evolved into this bestselling guide, translated into 40+ languages. Forbes hails her as a “thought leadership star,” and her advice has been featured everywhere from Good Morning America to Psychology Today. What sets Morin apart is her empathy—she writes as someone who’s navigated darkness and emerged stronger.

Why This Book Matters

This isn’t abstract advice. Each chapter tackles a specific pitfall—like self-pity, people-pleasing, or fearing change—with real-world examples (e.g., a recovering alcoholic swapping bar trips for walks with friends). Morin’s “What’s Helpful vs. What’s Not” sections offer concrete steps, making growth feel achievable. She doesn’t just diagnose problems; she hands you tools to fix them.

The book’s genius lies in reframing mental strength as a daily practice. As Morin writes, “Mental strength is like physical strength—you can’t wish for it, you have to train for it.” Whether you’re battling burnout, navigating loss, or simply seeking grit, her insights cut through platitudes.

Questions to Spark Reflection:

1. Which of the 13 habits do you struggle with most—and what small step could disrupt it today?

2. How might embracing “alone time” (habit #11) transform your relationship with yourself?

3. Can society’s emphasis on “positivity” sometimes hinder authentic mental strength?

Like the book? 

Enjoy to share ideas about new books contact me at bookdiscussion@marquesmind.com.

You can purchase the book on the following website: https://amzn.to/3CBhT4C (Amazon)

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